Lately I’ve been struggling to embody equanimity, which is defined as: mental calmness, composure, and evenness of temper, especially in a difficult situation.
There is so much pain and suffering and uncertainty- in my family, in our communities, and in the world.
I’ve questioned whether it’s ok to experience joy while all this suffering is going on; I’ve also wanted to pursue joy with wild abandon and completely dismiss the suffering of others. I’ve wanted to control everyone and everything, or totally shut down. None of these feels like the right solution, and I become more unstable when I flip flop from one extreme to another.
Maybe you can relate to this, the flip flopping to extremes, the confusion about how to care for yourself while caring for others. Many of us get out of balance in this regard, either over-giving and finding ourselves depleted, or being so consumed with maintaining our own bubble of pleasure and control that we’re doing very little to alleviate the suffering of others beyond our immediate circle.
There are a few things coming through as I reflect on this experience:
As you face your challenges today,
may you connect with flexibility practices
that release tension and strengthen your system.
May you have the support you need to let go of
your armored defenses, and find solace in vulnerability.
May you flow generously between
giving to yourself and caring for others.
And may you know, without a doubt,
that you are deeply and unconditionally loved.