There’s a part of Claiming Voice that’s about speaking up.
And there’s a part that’s about knowing when not to speak.
For example, not everyone can hear you in the way you want to be heard.
It’s smart to choose wisely who you open yourself up to and who you ask to understand you.
An old friend used the phrase: “Going to the hardware store for milk.” It’s so empowering to stop doing that.
Another motivation to not speak is when you don’t have the skills to speak up effectively and you hurt people with your words. Often the wisest choice is to step away, own your triggers, and calm your nervous system. Conflict can be messy and you don’t have to be perfect. But you do have to own how your words can hurt, and do your part to use non-violent communication.
This week we went into a deep process in my Sisterhood Circle Program when a conflict arose. It’s always exciting – even though it’s difficult – when this happens. Because I can teach about conflict resolution, but you can’t really learn how to do it until you’re in the experience.
It was so beautiful how the group moved from conflict to deep connection – from having armors up, to working through the conflict with higher consciousness and open hearts. This is Peaceful Warrior work and it happened because we practiced the art of speaking up and not speaking up.
This week – notice for yourself:
When you choose to speak up, what kind of results are you getting?
When you choose to not speak up, what kind of results are you getting?
The more you reflect on these questions, the more clear your roadmap will be to getting the results that you want!